Why We Do What We Do

Rule Book - Stuart MilesWhy do we do what we do? Why do we go to work? Why do we eat what we eat? Why do we have the friends we have? Why do we make the money we make? Why do we get out of bed in the morning? Why do we do anything?

Your Rule Book

While I can't answer those questions for you directly, what I can tell you is that you are walking around with a giant rule book in your head. And every experience and outcome is logged in that book. On top of it, every day your mind finds evidence to support those rules.

It does start at an early age. We are socialized by our parents to not pick our noses in public. To be polite. To say thank you. To look both ways before crossing the road.

Those rules were helpful for you as you learned your way. But when you aren't enjoying your life, your rules may no longer serve you. They may be suffocating your truest self, your essential self as Martha Beck would say.

Your Truest Self

Think of your truest self as the person you would be if you didn't worry about hurting anyone else's feelings... within reason of course. We aren't talking no limits, let's stab someone with a fork because there are no consequences, type of true self. Though if that is you, you may want to check yourself into the nearest mental health institution for a nice long stay. But I digress.

If you were born into a family where money was scarce, you may have a bunch of rules about money that make you tense just thinking about them. Your truest self may starving for air.

If your true self is an artist and you were born into a family of accountants, your creative dreams might be buried so deep beneath layers of left brained thinking you may not even know who you are anymore. Some rules may have to go!

Uncovering Those Rules

The easiest way to find a rule that isn't working for you anymore, that has you in its cluthes, is to think of one wild and crazy thing you'd like to do. Once you have it firmly in mind, I want you to say it out loud.

Here's one I think would be popular.

"I'm going to quit my job and move to (insert dream location) and do (dream job)."

And just wait. The thoughts will pour in. All those rules on how to live your life will magically appear. Some of them might even be said in your mother's own voice.

Write them down.

Next, we'll learn how to evaluate and unravel those rules.


Who would you be if you didn't acheive any goals or dreams?

EggnebulaEach week, I receive a question for the Conversations With God Coaching Services website. This week the question was along the lines of:

Who would you be if you didn't achieve your dreams?

I've thought on it more and followed with my own questions.

What would become of me if I didn't follow my dreams? Would I be any less of a person? What exactly are dreams anyway? Where do they come from?

For more weekly questions of a spiritual nature, go to: CWG Coaching Services .
A quote from their site that I find inspiring is below.

The Egg Nebula, recently discovered by the Hubble Space Telescope (shown). Like your answers, it has always been there. A new perspective changes everything.


Where exactly does creativity come from?

Where does your creativity come from? Do you believe yourself to be a conduit of divine grace? Do you see yourself as the sole creator of your experiences and thus your art? Where do your creative ideas come from?

Does the muse entice you into creating? Does the silence of boredom compel you to embrace the empty page? Or do you feel the pull of your creator, of the universe, to build other worlds in stories, drawings, and song?

Where does your creativity come from?


Can you create knowing that you'll never make money from your creations?

Can you create only for yourself? Can you be a poet and show no one? Can you sing your songs to your children only? Can your drawings be painted on the sand only to washed away?

There is something to be said for creating marketable pieces and for making a career out of your work. At the same time, it's also important that you create for yourself.

Who are you creating for?


If You Could Get Paid a Million Dollars To Do Something....

Mikegenie..what would it be?

This question comes from Michael Neill at www.geniuscatalyst.com. I heard him ask it on Hay House Radio during his weekly radio show.  To check it out, go to www.hayhouseradio.com.

If you could get paid a million dollars to do something, what would you want to be doing?

It's kind of a twist on "if you have a million dollars and could do anything, what would you do?"